How to network after a layoff when you feel embarrassed
Network after a layoff by asking people for a short conversation about your field, not for a job. Say what happened in one sentence, ask for their view or an introduction, and follow up. Most people want to help, and a layoff carries less stigma than it feels like it does.
By Justin KullaLast updated
A message that works
- Open with the connection: “We worked together on X.”
- One sentence on the change: “My role was eliminated in a restructuring.”
- One clear ask: “Could we talk for 15 minutes about how [company or field] is hiring for [role]?”
- Make it easy: offer two times, or say you will work around theirs.
Who to contact, in order
- People who know your work best: former managers and close colleagues.
- People who have been through a layoff themselves.
- People at your target companies, through someone you share.
- Recruiters in your function.
Keeping it going
- End each call by asking who else you should talk to.
- Send a thank-you the same day with a one-line summary of what you will do next.
- Update the person when something comes of their advice. It is the best reason to write again.
Frequently asked questions
Is it okay to tell people I was laid off?
Yes. Layoffs are common, and a plain statement without blame is respected.
How many conversations should I have each week?
A number you can sustain, often five to ten for an active search. Consistency matters more than volume.
What if people do not reply?
Follow up once after a week or two. Many replies come on the second note.
Should I ask directly for a job?
Ask for advice and introductions first. Specific requests for a role come naturally once the person understands what you want.
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