Who should I ask to be a reference?

A manager who saw your best work, a peer you collaborated with and, if you manage people, someone who reported to you. Recent beats senior.

When you reach the final round, or earlier if you are leaving a job and your manager may be hard to reach. You can also ask now and use them later.

What if I was laid off and my manager is gone?

Ask a former peer or another leader who knows your work. Layoffs are common and employers expect references from people who have since moved on.

Should I send a thank-you?

Yes, after they speak with the employer and again when you start. Two lines is enough.

Reference request email template

People say yes more often when you tell them what the role needs and what to highlight. This email does both and gives them an easy way out.

Subject: Would you be a reference for me?

Hi [their first name],

I hope you are doing well. I am applying for a [role you are applying for] role at [company] and I am moving toward the final round. Would you be willing to be a reference for me?

We worked together [how you worked together]. If it helps, I would suggest touching on [what you hope they will mention]. I can send my résumé and the job description so you know what they are looking for.

If the timing is not right, I completely understand. Thank you either way.

[your name]

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How to get it right

Ask before you list anyone. A surprised reference is a weak one.
Give them an easy way to decline. People who feel free to say no say yes more warmly.
Send the job description and your current résumé so they can speak to what the role needs.
Thank them and tell them how it turned out. They are a reference for life.

Questions about this template

Who should I ask to be a reference?: A manager who saw your best work, a peer you collaborated with and, if you manage people, someone who reported to you. Recent beats senior.
When should I ask?: When you reach the final round, or earlier if you are leaving a job and your manager may be hard to reach. You can also ask now and use them later.
What if I was laid off and my manager is gone?: Ask a former peer or another leader who knows your work. Layoffs are common and employers expect references from people who have since moved on.
Should I send a thank-you?: Yes, after they speak with the employer and again when you start. Two lines is enough.

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